If you find a friend who's wiser than you are and a few steps ahead of you on the path, it's a great gift to learn from her. Send a text or make a call today, thanking that friend. And take a minute to thank God for the mentors and guides he has placed in your life.
Ricardo and I did a brief stint
in Washington state. We endured and enjoyed the rain and green trees and fourth
of July fireworks under an umbrella. We had Googled local churches before we
left and had a few names written down to check out but we never did.
Our first Sunday there, we headed
to New Life, a church we had seen a little ways off on the way to my brother in
law's karate class. We drove in to the parking lot that Sunday, greeted by
volunteers directing us where to park, in my father in law's silver Mustang,
toting a bite my shiny metal a** vinyl
decal on the back window.
The ushers were sweet and
informative and told us of an upcoming mixer of sorts for marriage small groups
the next week. It was welcoming and sweet and homey, despite the large
attendance numbers and multiple services and we went back the next week and on
to the small group mixer. We ate yummy desserts and spoke with different
couples who were leading; their dates and times and curriculum displayed next
to them, along with a signup sheet with spots for up to five couples.
We met Duane and Robyn, who met
on Sundays and were starting in the Grip of Grace by Max Lucado. The time was
perfect and study appealing, so we wrote our names down next to Josh and Jenny,
Justin and Brenda and another couple that could not commit. As we talked, he
told us he was the children's pastor and had four children of his own. They
were sweet and funny and full of life and entertainment, to say the least.
Our group dwindled down to Justin
and Brenda, and Duane and Robyn and us, as far as regularity went after a while.
Justin and Brenda had two young children who would play with Duane and Robyn's
four, as we took turns meeting between each of their homes.
We were able to hear and see
glimmers of parenting, a season we were on cusp of entering, though we had no
idea at the time. We spoke of God and food and Justin and Duane made us laugh
more than anyone I know during our short time, constantly keeping things real
and genuine and humorous.
They demonstrated what it meant
to love and serve God and how pass that legacy on to their children, along with
an affinity for all things theater and Disney (speaking of, if you have any
questions regarding Disneyland and your family, check out his wisdom and fun at
theDisneylandDad.com)
Brenda allowed me to hang out
with her two during the week when Ricardo was working, while she looked for job
opportunities. We went on a few shopping adventures and took me to the east
side of the state, where hardly any green or hills are found and even drove
down from Washington to California when we moved back home, her two and half
year old and nine month old in tow. Being a mom now, I realize the amount of
love and crazy that it takes to embark on that type of adventure. And for that
I am thankful.
She let me come over and let me
in, as she drank coffee that she made in her Keurig, and talked about life and
becoming a mom and having a traveling husband and her family dynamics and
settling in to her new home and leading a bible study. She spoke of what God
had done and was doing, as she navigated being newly unemployed after being laid
off from her job.
It was in this brief snapshot of
time, God allowed me to learn a few tips and stepping stones in to mamahood and
what marriage looks like in that context, and blessed us with sweet friendship
in a new place.
And though I do not ever think one can know all things that are
gleaned in time spent together, I am forever thankful for each piece.
Here's to guidance and glimmers.
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